Stuck in the Middle.

Do you find yourself feeling stuck between friends, colleagues or family members? 

Not wanting to be in the middle of people in conflict is certainly reasonable. Sometimes we are asked to take sides and sometimes we just take on the role of rescuer.  Either way, it's a common dilemma and when it's self inflicted, it generally comes from a belief that people who don't get along need to get along. When we believe this thought, we feel stuck and frustrated. And then we take action to try to control or manipulate the situation.  From there the wheels of drama begin to spin.

Is it possible for someone to put you in the middle? In my experience, the only way to be in 'the middle' is to have the thought that there something wrong with the way things are. To be in 'the middle' is to be in conflict with the way of things.  I say it's not possible for someone to put me in that position without my permission. Only I can put myself there. And only I can take myself out. 

So, the next time you find yourself in the middle or about to jump into the middle of someone else's conflict, get yourself out. 
 
How?
First, question the thought that has (or had) you enter the triangle.  What's the worst that could happen if you stayed out of it?
Second, bring yourself fully back into your business. 
Third, trust people to work it out or not. 
And forth, get into the habit of being an observer. Learn to appreciate and embrace the people in your life without needing to change or fix anything about them. 

This may feel awkward at first.  You can certainly ask if there is anything you can do to support your friend, colleague or family member.  And, you can let them know that you trust them to work it out. 

This, in my experience is compassion and unconditional friendship.